Bondage getting started

Like with most elaborate and risky kinks we are going to talk about safety before we move forward to techniques. There are two general categories of safety for bondage; Personal and Medical. As you may have guessed already bondage is rather difficult to undo in a rush. So many knots, so many loops, and so many bindings. If your partner is having a rough time they may be struggling and you may be trying to untie them.

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In fact, the movie made the move so popular sales of the spreader bar sex toy sold out after Fifty Shades Darker hit cinemas and viewers witnessed that erotic scene between Christian and Ana. But why is bondage so alluring? Play-struggling against restraints can build an exciting adrenaline rush, while being blindfolded heightens the senses in the rest of the body. But how do you introduce something that conjures up images of leather fetish gear, gimp masks and twisted rope, into a bedroom that rarely hosts anything riskier than Reverse Cowgirl? So new Tinder dates are out.

Sign up for that FetLife account yet? Before we even get into activities, though, I want to take a minute and reassure you a little bit. BDSM and kink are practiced by all kinds of people with all kinds of backgrounds — and they play a huge role in the fantasy lives for a large proportion of women.